Have you ever gotten stuck behind that driver that had their blinker going in front of you and you could never really tell if they truly planned on making a turn or if they forgot all together their blinker was on? It drives you nuts! Whether out loud in the car or secretly in your head, you are thinking, “Goodness guy! Are you ever gonna turn!?!”
We call it the “eventual right turn”.
I’m all about comparing every day life events to lessons learned because they are so much more relatable. So, I got to thinking the other day about life and all my “eventual right turns”.
Riding through life, you have so many choices to make. Each with their own set of consequences both good and bad, depending on your decisions. And then, you get stuck. You totally planned on turning, eventually, someday, any day, but you are stuck in the slow lane, blinker on, and you NEVER TURN!
Perhaps to you (the driver with the annoying blinker on) there is not much frustration in the matter, but to those following behind you, it is driving them insane!! So, how does this relate to life you ask? Well, let me tell you!
There was a breaking point for me a couple months ago when i realized i had so many things going on in my life, i wasn’t paying attention to any of them. With the constant demands of my little one and all his skin issues, my oldest and his learning struggles in school, my husband and his crazy work schedule and back issues, my insane health issues, my army career, and the inevitable student loans, I was completely overwhelmed! I was going through motions, but canceling things randomly through the day to survive. I was making promises that I could never keep. Like, “I promise I’ll make dinner tomorrow”, “I promise the dishes will be done later”, “I promise I’ll sit on the floor and read to you”, “I promise we will get together this week”, and the list goes on! MY EVENTUAL RIGHT TURNS!!!
Now, nobody blamed me! I had my plate more than full and exhaustion became a color that started to look good on me. But my health was drained, my smile was disappearing, and soon, i was in preservation mode. Ever been there???
While the whole world held their breath, I made some turns and it made all the difference in my life! And I can guarantee there were huge sighs of relief coming from behind me in the form of “thank goodness she finally made up her mind and turned!” 🙂
So, what were those turns? Well, I began a new workout program, I got me some good books, and a planner, made some amazing new friends in the form of a motivation and accountability group of women, and started getting my life in order. There is nothing you can do about daily struggles. They are always gonna be there! But you can learn techniques to deal with them and make the decision to make a decision to make things better!
Raylen has been my biggest and most encouraging struggle in life! We started new lotions that have literally made his skin baby soft! but with that comes lots of other issues like bleeding, itching, long nights, pain, and frustration. There are a thousand things that we deal with everyday from his ears to his legs, to his fingers, teeth, eating habits, hydration, etc. But, by finally making the decision to take care of myself, I have a tremendous amount of energy found in my new daily workouts and lifestyle change to care more tenderly for him!
Ever heard the phrase they tell you on the plane to “put your mask on first”. There is a reason for that! I cannot possibly help anyone else if I’m not caring for myself and I only frustrate the world around me when I make promises to do that and never actually TURN!
Is it starting to come together yet?
What is your “eventual left turn”? Is it taking care of yourself? For most mommy’s and even daddy’s that is exactly it. But maybe it’s something else. Maybe it’s a trip, a job change, a move, a promotion, a baby, really, ANYTHING! You know what it is without me telling you, cuz you’ve had your blinker on for quite some time!
What are you going to do about it? Turning can be a scary thing! Not knowing for sure if its the right time, the right decision, the right anything. But once you make the turn, your life will start to blossom and you will be asking yourself why it took so long to finally make that turn! I know I did!
So, don’t get caught up in the eventual decision. Make a plan, make a turn, and start on a new path within the adventures of life and start really living!